Five Manipulation Tactics Narcissists Use in Conversations

Narcissists often employ specific techniques in conversations to avoid responsibility, demean their interlocutors, and maintain control. These techniques create an illusion of logic but, in reality, contain logical fallacies and disorientation.

1. Personal Attack: Instead of responding to an argument, narcissists attack the personality, feelings, or past of the person expressing it. For example, when criticized for manipulative behavior, they might respond by saying the interlocutor is "insecure and bitter."

2. False Dilemma: They present only two opposing choices, ignoring intermediate solutions. A typical phrase is, "You're either with me, or you're against me," eliminating the need for dialogue.

3. Straw Man Argument: They distort or oversimplify others' arguments to make them appear extreme and easier to refute. For example, a calm expression of dissatisfaction might be turned into "Now I'm the worst person in the world!"

4. Diversion of Conversation: They change the subject to avoid responsibility. If someone points out that they have been hurt, they may respond by referring to an old, irrelevant "mistake" of the interlocutor.

5. Appeal to Hypocrisy: They avoid responsibility by reciprocating the accusation. For example, if accused of lying, they might ask, "Have you never lied?"